Sunday, January 25, 2009
The first duty of love is to listen.
To listen well, is as powerful a means of influence as to talk well, and is as essential to all true conversation
"The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood. The best way to understand people is to listen to them."
— Ralph Nichols
"There is no such thing as a worthless conversation, provided you know what to listen for. And questions are the breath of life for a conversation."
— James Nathan Miller
"You cannot truly listen to anyone and do anything else at the same time."
— M. Scott Peck
"To listen fully means to pay close attention to what is being said beneath the words. You listen not only to the 'music,' but to the essence of the person speaking. You listen not only for what someone knows, but for what he or she is. Ears operate at the speed of sound, which is far slower than the speed of light the eyes take in. Generative listening is the art of developing deeper silences in yourself, so you can slow our mind’s hearing to your ears’ natural speed, and hear beneath the words to their meaning."
— Peter Senge